Is Shower Sex Worth The Hassle?

I’ve had some fantastic shower sex in the past. I’ve also had some pretty naff shower sex, and some shower sex which has been, quite frankly, dangerous. I’ve been thinking about shower sex recently because we’ve just moved into a sparkly new house, and have a couple of showers… one in the en-suite, and one over-bath in the family bathroom. Along with nostalgic memories of shower fun I’ve been thinking something else, too.

Is shower sex really worth the hassle?

Doing it in the shower always had a novelty appeal. The hot water pounding down, the slippery lather, the fact that you can get as filthy as you want (spit, piss, whatever) and it’s washed away instantly. Back in the honeymoon period of my relationship with my partner, we had sex in the shower fairly regularly. It’s not that we don’t want to have hot, wet, soapy sex any more, though; it’s more that back then we had a large walk-in shower. There was simply more room, which made shower sex much more comfortable.

Let me consider the pros and cons, from my shower sex experiences:

What’s great about shower sex

• The intimacy of sharing the wetness and warmth

• Washing each other is a fun but also practical form of foreplay

• No matter how filthy you both get, it’s easy (and fun) to get clean again immediately

• If you share the house with others, it’s somewhere with privacy & a lockable door

• Having sex someplace other than in your bed can be exciting & rejuvenating for your sex life

What’s not so great about shower sex

• Showers can be quite small so you don’t have much room to manoeuvre

• Soapy lather feels lovely but slipperiness + tiles is a health & safety nightmare

• If you need to use condoms, they can be difficult to put on in the shower

• It takes practice getting the angles for comfortable penetration right while you’re both stood up & there’s not much room to bend over

• If you need to steady yourself during foreplay, sex or after climax, there might not be much you can safely hold on to

Shower sex is a perfect way for a couple to spice things up with a change of scenery without ever leaving the house. However, you may find that when it comes time to do the deed, the reality may be quite different than the way you imagined things or what you might have seen in a Hollywood movie. In the movies the bodies are perfect, the lighting is perfect, the steam billows at strategic spots and basically everything runs very smoothly. In reality, shower sex can be a bit trickier than normal sex as the couple navigates obstacles such as cramped spaces, slippery surfaces and more. The secret is to make it sexy, fun and enjoyable—not necessarily "perfect." If things don’t go as planned, laugh it off together and try again. With that in mind, here are some shower sex tips to getting wet and wild (without slipping and sliding).

As you can see, it’s not all steamy cosy romance when it comes to the practicalities and realities of shower sex. The movies might make out that you’ll both be entirely comfortable, have enough room to try 58 different sex positions and at no point will anyone slip over and smash their knee into the tiles, but it’s just not the case. As I’ve mentioned above, I really advise having a less than serious attitude when it comes to shower sex. Take it easy, and keep in mind that the first few tries might end with bruised shins, someone slipping over, not being able to achieve penetration (if that’s what you’re after) and at least one if not both of you dissolving into a fit of giggles over the whole thing.